Creating Lists for Friends – Inspired by ‘Since You’ve Been Gone’

Since You’ve Been Gone by Morgan Matson is by far one of my favorite books of all time. This isn’t just because of its perfect story, or its captivating characters.

It’s also because it’s given me and a friend of mine a new fun way to spend our time!


Since Emily and Sloane became friends, Emily has been encouraged to forget her worries and find ways to be more adventurous with her friend.

Everything is going perfectly, and right when summer begins, Emily knows that she’s going to have the time of her life now that she has a new best friend to spend it with.

But something strange is going on. All of the sudden, Sloane isn’t answering her phone, and her house is now empty. Emily’s friend has disappeared out of nowhere.

The only thing she has from Sloane is a letter; a checklist of tasks, varying from simple to scary, that would usually be too nerve wracking for her to complete.

But what if there’s a chance that completing them all will help her find her friend?

Before you decide to make a fun list of things to do for your friend, I recommend reading Since You’ve Been Gone first, so you’ll get the gist of what I’m writing about.

When I talk about making lists, what exactly do I mean?

Tasks that will make your friend nervous, but will give them a sense of validation when they do it.

Some of the examples that my friend has made me do are:

  • Have a dance party by listening to ABBA songs.
  • Tell someone a secret you want to tell them but are too scared to.
  • Go to a sewer drain on the side of the road and scream; “Pennywise, I challenge you to a dance off!”

The reason I’m sharing this is because I think it’s a fun and easy way to find things to talk about with your friends, and you get to be creative when making it!

The Don’ts of Writing A Friend’s Checklists

When making these lists, have fun and don’t forget that you want your friend to have fun too!

Don’t choose to write about something that will make your friend or someone else feel uncomfortable or get someone hurt, because that’s not the point of making these lists.

Never force anyone to do something they don’t want to do, and be respectful of people’s rights when writing ideas down.

Also, don’t do anything that might get someone into danger, trouble, or is illegal.

The point is to break out of your shell and have something to do when you’re bored; not to get anyone in trouble or cause problems.

The Dos of Writing A Friend’s Checklists

It’s best to make the tasks on the list vary from easy to difficult.

Write some fun ideas down, and create some that they’ll have to put more effort into doing. The amount of tasks to write down is completely up to you!

When I make these lists with my friends, we set a date where we try to complete it by. We put our best efforts into completing them, but know that we don’t have to do them if we don’t want to.

Another option would be to theme your list! Some theme examples are food, reading, music, and fun!

If you decide to do this activity, let me know what you think! Since You’ve Been Gone is a great read, and I highly recommend it.


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